ONLINE DATING: "The Gentleman"

 Some of you have either used online dating or know of someone that has and you've likewise had or heard of both good and bad experiences. But sometimes there are ones that just make you literally shake your head and say, 

DID THAT SERIOUSLY JUST HAPPEN?? 

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I too have personally fallen prey to the online dating realm in the hopes of finding a match. 
And anymore NOTHING surprises me. I am ready for just about anything that someone throws at me.  The story I am about to tell you just happens to be a recent encounter that I had and quite frankly it made me laugh. So I wanted to share it with all of you.

A little background. 

Subject—56 yr. old black male, distinguished looking gentleman, neatly dressed and groomed. Now he was a bit older than I typically date but he initiated a conversation and so I politely responded.

The interaction began with him sending me a typical introductory message, "Hello, how are you?" Whereby I replied, "I'm doing good and you?"  

OK  nothing out of the norm - right?        Well...not yet....

His next message made me raise one eyebrow and furl the other when he asks me what I thought ‘curvy’ was.

Now, let me explain.   I had a number of clearly displayed full body photos of myself, both front and side views on my profile and you can't message me without seeing them. Under those photos it describes a little about me-brown hair, blue eyes etc. and then under body type it gives the options -thin, athletic, average, curvy, husky, full figured, BBW.  Now for me personally I am not a guy so I wasn't putting husky, & I wasn't a busty as some so I didn't think full figure worked either, so equivalent female option--curvy. I figured that was an accurate physical description. So I chose that option.  

But I was curious to know where he was going with his query, even though I was pretty sure I already knew, I responded anyway.  I told him that curvy would mean that you have a smaller waist and bigger hips / thighs / butt.

So he replies… “Yea, that’s curvy but in your pix you don’t look curvy, you look fat.”

Yep, you read it correctly, he said the “F” word. 
   

So now you are thinking... "Uh Oh. It's about to go down.!" 

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Now, I coulda gone and gotten mad and told him him off.  It was a rude, unsolicited comment, no matter if it was his personal opinion.  Honestly I'm not an ignorant person.  I know I have some extra meat on my bones but I chose an option I felt best described my figure, from my perspective and curvy was it. Besides each person, whether it be a man or woman has their own perspective of what curvy, thin, fat, athletic etc. looks like.

But again, my profile isn’t hidden, my photos are clearly visible. So if someone was purely going by words when they are reading my profile, they would be remiss if they overlooked all the other positive attributes I possess.  Anyone can physically view what I look like, it should be up to that individual to make up their mind – right? 

OK—I know you are dying to know.  Did I tell him off? Did I block him? Did I report him to the meanie police?   

Well, I thought he is trying to irritate me and get under my skin.  So instead of responding rudely I simply said,  “ok, thanks”. I wanted to let him know that his words, no matter how he wanted to convey them, didn't affect me.

But that wasn’t enough for the dear old boy.  Nope, he responded with a patronizing heir, “You sound upset?” 

So, since I had a little time on my hands & since it seemed clear to me that this sweet gentleman's  initial goal in contacting me was an attempt to be insulting.  I wanted to assure him that his playground bully tactics weren't gonna work.

I went in and I found a picture in my profile that I thought made me look the biggest and I plunked that baby as my profile photo.  Then of course I wanted to ease his little pee brain conscience and I replied once again, 

“No, I’m not mad at all.  As a matter of fact, because I appreciated that you gave me such a gentlemanly compliment it actually motivated me to change my profile photo to really emphasize the fatty that I am," (and I went on to add in the same message), 

"because quite honestly you, a complete stranger, could have called me Miss Piggy for all I care. I would have gladly embraced my pearl necklace and feather boa with pride. 

I am who I am. Everyone has their own perspective. 

and I concluded with...

Have a fantastic evening. :) ”

Sounds like that would get him off my back right?  WRONG!

He sends me yet another message.  Yea -- this boy is thick—in the head.  Will he ever give up I wondered?

He says. “You should be honest and let them decide.”

Needless to say, at this point, it is futile talking to this narrow minded, nitpicker, twat of a man that was so hung up on a singular adjective he felt compelled to let-me-know. 

I mean I know I coulda said, “listen here ass hat, I got my damn photos up, why you trifling?”… but really what good would that have done?  Nothing really.  So I took the higher ground. At this point - I blocked him.  

    

I’m guessing it must make him feel good to hide behind a computer screen and spout insults at 40-year-old woman. Let’s just say I wish him the best in whatever he is searching for but phew, glad it ain’t me!

Miss Piggy  out...